Pedophilia

As the situation from Penn State unfolds with this coach being accused of sexual assault against young boys, I hear a lot of people out there stating their disgust at this behavior. People are screaming that this guy is a pervert, sick in the head, human disgrace, etc., and I do not necesarily disagree. But the thought that keeps coming back into my head is that this guy is wired to be attracted sexually to boys. It is completely involuntary and he cannot control these most basic animalistic urges. We all have these sexual atttractions but most are wired in a "societally acceptable" manner. We accept urges between men and women and even between same sexes but involuntary sexual urges between a man and a boy in our society cannot be acted upon, predominantly because of the inability of the minor to consent to the behavior. But what of this man who hasn't voluntarily decided to be attracted to boys, but is just pre-wired that way.

Why would some of us be created hard wired to be attracted to children? If we are created in the image of god and by god why would he create some of us to have one of our most powerful animalistic urges, the urge to be sexual, targeted towards children? You can answer that we all are created with certain desires that are off limits and it is our mission to overcome these desires with our gift of free choice. Married men are attracted sexually to other women. A man may be attracted sexually to a cousin or other relative in his family that is off limits. But, we control these involuntary urges, these animalistic desires of our hard wiring because we know that although the attraction can be all consuming we must supress acting on them. But why be created with such a strong sexual urge yet one that cannot be acted upon? It is truly a curse.

On a similar, but contrary note, we may be entirely repulsed by certain realtions. For instance, the idea of a homosexual relationship to me is repulsive and for the homosexual a man-woman relationship may be similarly repulsive. Certainly, sexual realtions with a young boy to me is repulsive whereas to another may be all consuming. Why would I be repulsed by sexual relations with a sister or mother even though she is more attractive than someone else who I cannot get out of my mind? There is something hard wired into us that controls to whom we are attracted and to whom we are not attracted and this cannot be modified. Why would god do that? It seems to be an almost impossible test for human beings. When we are sexually attracted to someone it can entirely consume our thoughts yet we are charged with self-control of these most powerful desires.

In no way do I condone the behavior of this presumed pedophile but in some way I think that his behaviors are generated by a faulty hard wiring in his brain that promotes an attraction to young boys that he cannot control. He does not have the strength to overcome these involuntary urges that he must know are damaging yet justifies their implementation. He is born with a curse that he must curb this desire throughout his life. I suppose we are all born with certain animalistic, involuntary urges that test us daily our ability to overcome them. Some are tested more than others and I think this attraction to young boys is an almost unfair test for many to endure.

C'mon People

Why I have no patience for some patients.

The patient who comes in repeatedly for sore throat and smokes two packs of cigarettes per day. They complain that I am not helping them even though the source for their problem is those damn cigarettes and refuses to stop.

The patient who leaves a message for me to call them back on their cell phone and when I do has a five minute musical introduction before I can get them. I don't have the time and i don't want to hear your rendition of music.

The patient who weighs over three hundred pounds and comes in and complains of difficulty swallowing. Hello?

The patient who has chronic nasal congestion, went for allergy testing and was found to be allergic to cats. I ask if they have a cat and they respond absolutely. What do you want from me? Ditch the cat.

The patient who has an ear full of wax and swears either that they don't use q-tips or barely put them in their ears. The only way the wax can get so impacted is by jamming those suckers so it almost comes out the other side.

The parent who comes in with a morbidly obese child and complains the child cannot breath at night. Try losing a couple of those chins and maybe they will breath better.

If the doctor asks you how long a symptom has been present do not answer "for a while". I don't know if that is five minutes or five years.

If you are coming to see the doctor for an abnormality on a test or imaging study ordered by another doctor, bring the result or study with you. My crystal ball is malfunctioning.

If you do not speak English, bring a translator with you. Otherwise, it is as if the doc is a veterinarian.

Do not feed your child immediately prior coming to see the doctor for a throat problem (guaranteed to vomit it all over the floor). Especially colored candy which causes the entire mouth to turn red or purple.

Don't come to the doctors office two hours before your appointment and then complain that you have to wait. It is not fair to see you early and then make everyone after you wait.

Do come in 15 minutes before your appointment, especially if you are a new patient to fill out the necessary papers.

I understand for some retired folk the visit to the doc is their one activity for the day. Do not expect the doc to spend additional time with you just to make that singular activity make the day pass.

If you are coming in for a problem in the neck, do not wear a turtle neck.

Medicine is not like the show Grey's Anatomy. I do not live in the hospital. I do not have sexual relations with residents and nurses. I have a family just like you and I don't like to be called in the middle of the night.

If you have a medical problem do not wait until a holiday to call the doctor. Take care of it during normal business hours. I have received too many calls on holidays with medical problems that were existing for days prior which could have and should have been addressed earlier.

Don't call me for a refill of your pain meds on nights and weekends. I will not fill them and any doc that does is inviting trouble. Btw, we have caught on to the trick of calling for medications after hours so you can avoid paying the copay.

I realize that a similar list could probably be constructed about patient complaints against doctors. But c'mon people, get real.

TEOTWAWKI

One night a few weeks ago I couldn't sleep so I started listening to the radio show coast to coast which is on every night from about 1 am to 5 am. Since I have sleeping issues I often find myself listening to the show until I fall back asleep but this particular night the interview was fascinating. The host, George Noory, was interviewing a man named Jim Rawles who was answering questions regarding preparation for TEOTWAWKI, acronym for the end of the world as we know it. What struck me was how ill prepared I was for any potential interruption in my life. We have become so dependent and complacent. We assume the supermarket will always have stocked shelves, the electricity and gas/oil that power our homes and the police that provide security will always be there. But what if it's not? We have become so narrow in our fields of expertise that we have no clue how to provide the basic necessities for ourselves in case we need to. It may not be the extreme of TEOTWAWKI but it is certainly possible for interruptions in supply chains to be prolonged. Terrorists, who by the government's own admission, are already in this country, can cause enough damage to instigate a prolonged interruption of what we take for granted will always be present.

So many of our resources are completely dependent on technology for their production as well as delivery that if this was ever compromised food and fuel delivery would be cut off. What would we do then? Do I have any clue as to how to maintain warmth, obtain and purify water, get food once the pantry goes dry or how to defend my family against looters? Do I gave any of the skills necessary for survival in these circumstances? Now that I am in my fourth day of a blackout and forced to live in someone else's house I think I need to be more concerned about being self-sufficient. What if someone else's house wasn't available or the blackout was regional and not limited to several blocks.

How long would it take for people to loot, steal or worse to obtain food, water or shelter? Mr Rawles suggested we live in a society with a very thin veneer of civility. After missing two or three meals that veneer would disappear and it would be every man for themselves. It seems extremely scary but preparation could put one way ahead of the game. What seems simple and inexpensive to obtain now could be a commodity later. Skills that one could master now would go a long way at TEOTWAWKI. I try to talk to some neighbors about this and most think I'm nuts. If this make any sense to you I suggest you go to Mr Rawles web site at survivalblog.com and start doing the research. Start making the right purchases and obtain the appropriate skills. Plan ahead for a situation where you may need to protect yourself and your family. There is a ton of information on the web to get you started. I know after these several days with no power or warmth, forced to live in small room in a friend's house, I will be doing more to prepare for the next time. I believe this was a wake up call for me.